...and I am very, very pleased with myself.

First of all I hope I’m posting this in the correct forum. However I doubt you will care!

It’s something I’ve suspected for a while, after a few little conversations we’ve had. Trouble is she is quite shy and easily embarrassed about this stuff so it’s been quite difficult to get her talking.

The first definite sign something was going on happened about a year and a half ago. What happened would probably give most guys a heart attack, and I guess it did me at first. From a little snooping around, I found out she was registered on some dating site looking for other girls. Now this left me feeling a way I’d never really felt before… shocked, my heart was pounding, I was jittery… only I had an erection! Despite the obvious concerns that she could have gone off men entirely, my ever-optimistic dick told me hey, this could turn out in your favour! So I decided not to bring the topic up, and instead I laid low and kept a watchful eye on what she got up to online over the next few months.

I soon got pretty bored of checking every few days only to be disappointed, but still I persisted. I guess with time it did start to get to me a bit - why would she do that behind my back? But things were going pretty good between us so I decided I’d wait before raising it. Inevitably, though, it came up one day in an argument. That day she swore blind she did it for me, she wanted to arrange a threesome but freaked out, and I guess I had no choice but to take her word for it.

A couple of things still concerned me though - why hadn’t she discussed it with me beforehand? And why, if it was all for ME, why had she not advertised the fact that we were a couple and listed herself as lesbian? I decided to leave it a little longer and keep checking on her every now and then.

Now I live about 200 miles away from my hometown, and I still write music with one of my friends back home, so I go and visit for a few days every month or so. Of course whenever I get back I check what she’s been up to. Sure enough, the first time I went away after this incident, I discovered she’d been browsing Literotica (a website that hosts thousands of erotic stories). So I look into it a little closer… sure enough, the story is ‘My first lesbian experience’, and she’d even been looking at a couple of movies linked to the site. And this wasn’t a one off - basically every time I’ve been away since, she has been reading these stories. Not once has she read anything about straight sex - except for one time she read about an MFF threesome, but from what I could tell, it was a fairly brief glance.

So this put me in a tricky situation. I wanted to believe she just had this side of her that she wanted to explore, and things were going great between us as usual, but all the evidence (except for her living with me, obviously) pointed to more than just a curiosity. I waited a good few months up until last weekend when I finally brought up the topic.

And, well, looks like it could be the beginning of the best thing I ever did! It took a lot of prying (and I guess I probably pissed her off a lot trying to get all this info, but it needed doing), but she basically admitted she has been attracted to girls as well as guys since before we even met (we met at 18 and have been together for 5 1/2 years since then). She admitted that she did sign up for the dating site for her own benefit, but got too freaked out to take it anywhere too. I’m not a jealous guy so this hasn’t really bothered me - but I would like to think if she was willing to do that, she will be willing to do it for me at some point!

So… I hope you guys like my little story. I know some girls tell their guys about these kind of feelings from day one, but this was big for me!

Now, how do I get to take this further? Your comments/suggestions/experiences please!!!

Good lad..
I think, say you don’t want to hold back on her fantasies and say your willing to make a sacrifice in the relationship to either let her be with another women (while you watch) OR have another women join you two in bed.  Go with the two birds one stone.  Awesome!
haha

Let us know how you get on!
and welcome!

Cowboy!

wow. tldr.

but I know I should already ask for the pics of whatever comes out of that.

snowball - 12 February 2008 12:52 AM

wow. tldr.

but I know I should already ask for the pics of whatever comes out of that.

and vid.. lol

Good call snowball!

Are there are any gay clubs nearby you can take her to? (try and find one with a mixed crowd, not just a village people appreciation night )

Haha. I bet you’d all love pics. I’m not sure that is going to happen I’m afraid. I guess I wouldn’t want to do that behind her back anyway, but if it ever got out that I’d released photos of her I think the consequences would be less than enjoyable! Rest assured she is very hot though.

Being serious, we used to watch porn together in the past and we have talked about spicing things up a bit, so I think we are going to start doing that and I will have to sneak some full on girl-on-girl into that! I guess I’m just going to have to ease her into it, like I say she is shy and there is no way she’ll be doing anything like this unless she is totally sure. So I guess it’s a matter of dropping hints and gradually getting more serious about it.

I could take her to a gay club, but a) you’ve got the issue of how many girls are looking for threesomes? and b) the actual effort involved - she is shy, I am not as good looking as her so it might take some doing! I’d much rather advertise online, maybe even on the site she signed up for in the first place.

Gorkle,

As the old saying goes, “Careful what you wish for, you just might get it!”

With that said all you need is your girlfriend with you at the best strip club you can find and lots of tequila shots.

A good 90% of strippers are into girls and if you make your girlfriend comfortable and don’t sound like you are trying to direct a porno, you will see a favorable outcome.

Spartan

So you’ve turned her into a lesbian?

Perhaps post some naked pics of yourself so we can decide (with the help of naughtyteddy - whether you would turn her into a lesbian or not.)

Spartan28 - 12 February 2008 08:34 AM

“Careful what you wish for, you just might get it!”

this might all end in tears, but wtf, at least you’ll have enjoyed yourself...alot

Haha! Maybe I have turned her into a lesbian, but I’m not too worried. We have been together over 5 years and we are only 23 and 24, so I figure it’s at that stage where we will either decide we don’t want to settle down for good yet, or we’re going to start thinking about the very long term future.

As much as anything, if she has these feelings, I’d really like for her to find out for herself. She talks about marriage and kids frequently enough for me to feel fairly comfortable with it all, though.

Even if it does end in tears, I can tell you now that as long as I get to see my girl getting it on with another girl, I will still die a happy man!!!

Ha sweet, nice story.